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How should a husband treat his wife?

 

 

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Ephesians 5:25 – Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

“When Paul says that a husband must embrace self-sacrifice for the sake of his wife’s well-being, this, of course, includes her physical safety. But the main threat against which a man must protect his wife is his own sin. A friend once expressed his awakening to this truth in these words: “I used to think that if a man came into my house to attack my wife, I would certainly stand up to him. But then I came to realize that the man who enters my house and assaults my wife every day is me, through my anger, my harsh words, my complaints, and my indifference. As a Christian, I came to realize that the man I needed to kill in order to protect my wife is myself as a sinner.” ~ Richard D. Phillips, The Masculine Mandate: God’s Calling to Men (p. 87)

“Gentlemen, nothing in God’s word says you are to degrade your wife, to belittle or to force her into submission to your ideas or opinions. You are to lead by presenting a godly example. Yes, you are to make decisions and they should never demean your wife. If you do you sin against her and also against God. You should never make her the blunt of jokes and always show her a proper and gentlemanly respect. A man who does put his wife down degrades himself. It shows he has no real understanding of the roles of marriage. If he does not respect his wife he will not respect other also. The result will be that he will be a poor husband and leader.” ~Cooper Abrams

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Stop Bullying Yourself

Whether your abuser used words or fists, you’ve been beaten down and wounded. Day after day, your abuser attacked you with lies. Night after night, you’ve suffered through his violence and venom. You’ve lived in craziness. You’ve been misled, mistreated and manipulated. You’re exhausted. It’s time for a new tactic. You’ve been beaten down long enough. You’ve believed his lies long enough. It’s time to give yourself a dose of truth. It’s time to stop bullying yourself.

I’m not suggesting that you give yourself positive affirmations. Trying to encourage yourself from the depths of your brokenness isn’t going to do all that much good. What you need to do is this: Stop calling yourself by the same evil words your abuser called you by. Whether he cursed you, told you that you were inferior, made fun of you or called you names, don’t ever go there again.

When you “hear” the words playing around in your mind, fill your mind with God’s Word instead. Your enemy called you evil names or said cruel things about you. God calls you His child, His daughter, loved, saved, justified. It is what the Lord has to say about you that matters. Fill your mind with His truth.

Philippians 4: 8, Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Posted in Poetry

Let me come in by Grace Noll Crowell

Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours,
Can understand.
Let me come in – I would be very still
Beside you in your grief.
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief.
Let me come in – I would only breathe a prayer,
And hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours,
And understand.

by Grace Noll Crowell